Coping with Fear


Mr. Vega; Ms. Suero; Mike Mevkalo, Contributors

Fear is a natural thing that comes out of life, but there are things that you can do to help you overcome your fears. These are some ways to help you cope with your day-to-day fears and anxieties.

These tips are for people who are coping with everyday fears. If you do feel that you need further assistance with coping with your everyday fears, then we recommend seeking professional help. 

1. Take time for yourself

We know that it is impossible to think clearly when your head is flooded with fear or anxiety. Try to take about 10 – 15 minutes distracting yourself from what is causing you fear or anxiety. For example: taking a walk outside, playing a video game, listening to music. 

2. Deep Breathing

When we are in a state of fear, we tend to experience symptoms similar to anxiety. These symptoms can be a faster heartbeat or sweating palms. We recommend staying where you are and simply feel the panic without trying to distract yourself. Take that time to breathe slowly and deeply. This allows your brain to adapt to how you cope with fear.

3. Facing your fears

Avoiding fears only makes them scarier. If you face your fear, it should start to fade.  If you have experienced a panic attack or have fear of taking the bus, then it is best that you try to get on the bus consistently in order to overcome the fear.

4. Be realistic/Stay in reality

Our mind can turn our fears into something way worse than it actually is. We as humans tend to think in the extremes. It is important to bring ourselves back into reality. We have to challenge our fearful thoughts. 

5. Don’t try to be perfect

Life is full of stress, but many of us feel that our lives must be perfect. Bad days and setbacks will always happen, and it’s important to remember that this is how life is.

6. Imagery

Take a moment to close your eyes and imagine a place of safety and calm. It could be a picture of you walking on a beautiful beach or snuggled up in bed with your pet next to you. Let the positive feelings soothe you until you feel more relaxed. While imagining your safe place, also begin to take slow, deep breaths.  The imagery technique and deep breathing go hand-in-hand.

7. Talk about it/Seek professional help

Sometimes a fear can prevent us from enjoying life and taking care of our day-to-day responsibilities. Talking to someone about what you are going through and feeling can be very helpful. You can talk to anyone about what you are going through as long as they are willing to listen and help. You can go to a parent, close friend, or a neighbor that you trust. 

If you do feel that you need further help and need someone other than mom or dad to talk to, then it is best that you seek professional help. Speaking with a therapist has lots of benefits. You will be speaking to someone who has studied how to help individuals cope with their fears and help many others like you overcome their fears. Therapists can provide you with a list of many coping skills/techniques. Therapists will be that non-judgmental/non-biased figure that can provide guidance and suggestions to how to overcome your fear.